Insights: Dancing with resistance.
Stepping out of the shadows can be a scary thing to do, particularly when you’ve spent a lifetime playing things safe. Whether it’s playing small to protect ourselves, or dimming our light to make other people feel more comfortable around us, there are many ways in which we learn to contain what we think, what we say and what we do.
And when the moment comes to step into our mission it can feel completely overwhelming to step out of the shadows and into the spotlight, even though we know it’s what we were born to do.
In this week’s episode we look back at my conversation with Monique DeBose, award-winning jazz singer, songwriter, playwright, diversity consultant and spiritual coach. As we listened to the many contexts in which women hold themselves back, we also witnessed what it is to experience that change in power and energy when we own who we truly are, and become unapologetic for sharing that with the world.
This Insights episode is all about the dance with resistance that we experience whenever we are ready to take the next step up in our life and leadership. Understanding our own experience of this deeply personal part of us that exists to keep us safe, so that we can work with it to help us soar.
If you’re ready to step into your own spotlight, take a listen.
ABOUT YOUR HOST: SUE REVELL
Sue is on a mission to STOP women playing small so that they can create the legacy they want to leave in the world. With over 30 years coaching and leadership experience, Sue loves nothing more than disrupting the unhelpful thinking that often holds women back, so that they can think, dream and BE bigger in leading the change they want to see. Coaching internationally, Sue’s clients are primarily world-changing women who want to lead with confidence, increase their impact and live a life that matters.
RESOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
Episode 39: Done With Hiding! with Monique DeBose
Episode 25: If Not Me, Then Who? with Emma Barnes
Free Guide: Being Unstoppable by Sue Revell
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Singer, Songwriter & Spiritual Coach
Monique DeBose is an award-winning singer, songwriter and spiritual coach. A leading vocal improvisationalist (having studied under Rhiannon and Joey Blake of the renowned Bobby McFerrin Voicestra), Monique has toured and entertained audiences throughout the world, performed at TEDx and spoken as part of the United Nation’s SDG Action Zones event, with the mission of helping people to transition beyond seeing in “black” and “white” so they can begin to live life in full colour.
Her most recent album debuted at number 2 on the iTunes jazz charts in 2018 and was officially re-imagined and re-released on August 27, 2021 as “You Are The Sovereign One”- a transformational album and interactive course for women with 9 brand new songs.
Her most recent singles include “Brown Beauty” a love letter to Black women and women of color across the world, and “Human Condition” a song and interactive lesson to help women embrace all the parts of themselves so they can experience self-love and acceptance on a whole new level.
Monique has also launched the “MORE with Monique” podcast and the “Women Choosing MORE” Facebook Group where she draws upon her Master’s degree in spiritual psychology to help women choose MORE of what they want for their lives.
Inspired by her experience of what it means to be a black, mixed-race woman (from an African American father from the segregated south and Irish American mother from upstate New York) she wrote the funny, heartwarming and disruptive one-woman show “Mulatto Math: Summing Up The Race Equation in America” to initiate conversation and help heal race relations in the United States. After winning the Producer’s Encore Award at the Hollywood Fringe Festival and performing the show throughout the world as a workshop focusing on identity, race and belonging, Monique is currently developing Mulatto Math for original programming.
She calls LA home, is married to a Brit and is raising two compassionate, culturally intelligent boys.