Being a compulsive helper.
Wanting to help people has long been the driver behind many career and life choices, but what happens when you don’t know how to stop? What happens when you’re so compelled to be helpful that you can’t say ‘no’ to helping, even when helping would have a negative impact on your own needs or the needs of those closest to you?
Jess has been confident of her own mission, to help people, since she was aged 13 years old – a mission that has been reinforced at various stages of her life, culminating in her study of how and why some people cannot help but help, even when it’s to the detriment of their own wellbeing.
In this deeply personal conversation, psychologist Jess Baker shares her own story of being helped, as a teenager, to navigate what she would later realise was the impact of growing up with a parent who was experiencing narcissistic personality disorder. It’s a powerful account of how a lifetime of ‘doing the work’ has not only allowed Jess to find and accept who she really is, but has also inspired her latest mission-fuelled adventure: co-authoring The Super-Helper Syndrome: a survival guide for compassionate people, due for release later in September 2022.
This episode is for anyone who wants to know more about how to deepen their own self-awareness and sense of personal identity. It’s also for everyone who finds it hard to say no and wants to learn more about helping without detriment to their own well-being.
MORE ABOUT MY GUEST: JESS BAKER (FULL BIO ON PODPAGE)
Jess is a Chartered Business Psychologist, and Women’s Leadership Coach (CPsychol AFBPsS). Her first book, The Super-Helper Syndrome: A Survival Guide for Compassionate People will be released on 29thSeptember 2022.
Jess Baker’s full bio and contact details can be found on her personal guest page.
ABOUT YOUR HOST: SUE REVELL
Sue is on a mission to STOP women playing small so that they can create the legacy they want to leave in the world. With over 30 years coaching and leadership experience, Sue loves nothing more than disrupting the unhelpful thinking that often holds women back, so that they can think, dream and BE bigger in leading the change they want to see. Coaching internationally, Sue’s clients are primarily world-changing women who want to lead with confidence, increase their impact and live a life that matters.
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RESOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
The I Gotta Be Me Experience with Sue Revell
The Super-Helper Syndrome: A Survival Guide for Compassionate People by Jess Baker & Rod Vincent
Psychologist | Coach | Author
I’m Jess Baker, a Chartered Business Psychologist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society, and Women’s Leadership Coach (CPsychol AFBPsS).
For the past 20 years I’ve been working in the areas of leadership and wellbeing with individuals and global organisations.
And . . . drum roll please . . . I’ve just written my first book, The Super-Helper Syndrome: A Survival Guide for Compassionate People (hardback, Sept 29th, with Flint Books). It’s already available to pre-order - see the Amazon link below. You can also pre-order from a list of online booksellers, use Book Depository for orders outside the UK, and you can join the FREE Book Club - just click here: https://jessbaker.co.uk/shsbookclub/
I started my career in healthcare before specialising in business psychology. I regularly deliver wellbeing webinars from my loft in Shropshire to global audiences of up to 15,000 people. As well being an award-winning coach for my private 1:1 sessions, I run online programmes. Over a thousand women have been through Tame Your Inner Critic. A course that helps people overcome the inner critic, one of my oldest friends!
You can also find me live on stage speaking at conferences and festivals. You can read my commissioned articles on wellbeing at work in AB global business magazine. And I’m often asked to comment on leadership, psychology at work and mental health for a range of magazines, newspapers as well as live on national radio.
As an expert on the wellbeing of helpers I offer my services on a voluntary basis to a number of UK and global charities. Closer to home, I’m co-founder of Ludlow Women’s Hub, a supportive group for women in business across the Welsh Marches.
You can find my free workbooks and other courses here: