Insights: Learning to say no.
Are you a compulsive helper and, if so, what drives you or compels you to help others, even when helping results in your own needs being ignored and neglected?
In last week’s interview, business psychologist Jess Baker shared her own journey as a super-helper. Her mission to help others was to become her life’s work, even though this has often been to the detriment of her own wellbeing.
Looking back on our conversation, I begin by reflecting on the clarity of Jess’s mission and the powerful impact of those around her in enabling her to see the difference she too could make by becoming a helper. I then look at what we can learn from Jess’s quest to understand who she really is and her purposeful commitment to being her best self in her mission to help others.
If you’re looking to be your best self in your mission, or you know it’s time to do the personal inner-work that will take your mission to the next level, this week’s Insights episode is for you.
ABOUT YOUR HOST: SUE REVELL
Sue is on a mission to STOP women playing small so that they can create the legacy they want to leave in the world. With over 30 years coaching and leadership experience, Sue loves nothing more than disrupting the unhelpful thinking that often holds women back, so that they can think, dream and BE bigger in leading the change they want to see. Coaching internationally, Sue’s clients are primarily world-changing women who want to lead with confidence, increase their impact and live a life that matters.
TO CONNECT WITH / HEAR MORE FROM SUE:
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Book a Possibility Call: Book here
RESOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
THE BIG BIRTHDAY GIVEAWAY! Help me celebrate the first anniversary of the Women on a Mission show: Details of prizes and how to enter
The I Gotta Be Me Experience with Sue Revell
Episode 61: Are You a Super-Helper? with Jess Baker
The Super-Helper Syndrome: A Survival Guide for Compassionate People by Jess Baker & Rod Vincent
Psychologist | Coach | Author
I’m Jess Baker, a Chartered Business Psychologist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society, and Women’s Leadership Coach (CPsychol AFBPsS).
For the past 20 years I’ve been working in the areas of leadership and wellbeing with individuals and global organisations.
And . . . drum roll please . . . I’ve just written my first book, The Super-Helper Syndrome: A Survival Guide for Compassionate People (hardback, Sept 29th, with Flint Books). It’s already available to pre-order - see the Amazon link below. You can also pre-order from a list of online booksellers, use Book Depository for orders outside the UK, and you can join the FREE Book Club - just click here: https://jessbaker.co.uk/shsbookclub/
I started my career in healthcare before specialising in business psychology. I regularly deliver wellbeing webinars from my loft in Shropshire to global audiences of up to 15,000 people. As well being an award-winning coach for my private 1:1 sessions, I run online programmes. Over a thousand women have been through Tame Your Inner Critic. A course that helps people overcome the inner critic, one of my oldest friends!
You can also find me live on stage speaking at conferences and festivals. You can read my commissioned articles on wellbeing at work in AB global business magazine. And I’m often asked to comment on leadership, psychology at work and mental health for a range of magazines, newspapers as well as live on national radio.
As an expert on the wellbeing of helpers I offer my services on a voluntary basis to a number of UK and global charities. Closer to home, I’m co-founder of Ludlow Women’s Hub, a supportive group for women in business across the Welsh Marches.
You can find my free workbooks and other courses here: